My husband was totally into sports in his school days. He was a good swimmer and basketball player. His only regret is that he couldn’t make it to the national basketball team due to his small frame. He wants our daughter to excel in sports. Jahnvi is showing interest in horse riding. So my husband got her admitted in a school which teaches younger kids to ride horses as a part of its extracurricular activities. He even boughtequestrian apparel for her. I don’t know whether she will have the same interest when she is older. Children have shifting interests at this stage.
Yesterday Jahnavi’s teacher gave me a pamphlet which says that the zoolab will be visiting the nursery with their animals. Today the animals will be coming, and I don’t know how Jahnavi will react. She is very timid and afraid of animals. Just recently she has started showing some courage when she sees a dog. Otherwise, normally she would start yelling from a mile if she spotted a dog.Lets see how will be today’s experience. The children will be allowed to handle the animals. But I doubt my daughter will go near them, let alone touch them.
May be I have imagined it. But I think that two of the teachers at Jahnavi’s nursery have racial attitude. You may call me paranoid and impossible. When I went to drop her this morning, the older teacher asked me to use the door assigned for visitors. I told them that its not working. The younger teacher said in an aggressive tone,” But it works fine for every body else”. I was lost for words. Then I simple said “Okay” and led my daughter to hang her coat.
Now you may have not noticed anything unusual in the dialogue here. But the tone and expressions can’t be described here. The racial undercurrent was there. The younger teacher herself knows that the buzzer on the visitors’ door isn’t working. And I used the other door because on two occasions, the head teacher herself had indicated me to come through it. The head teacher is nice and genuine person. She had let me in twice through other door as the buzzer is stuck.
Its been three days since my daughter Jahnavi has started going to her new school Yesterday she told me that she is hungry as the teacher didn’t give her snacks. Now I am sure the teachers there are caring and responsible. They must have been busy attending to other kids. Jahnavi said that she was playing and didn’t know when the food was served. May be she is lying. May be she saw others eating, but didn’t have the courage to go to the teacher and ask for the snacks.
That’s me actually. I avoid interactions with other and do my best to shun people. I feel nervous when I have to meet somebody or go out to get something done. I don’t want my daughter to turn up like me.
She has some of her father’s traits too. She likes going out. She can roam around the streets and won’t complain that she is tired. She was only two and a half years when we went to Paris. We didn’t use push chair as Paris roads and stations are not child friendly. Jahnavi enjoyed there a lot and didn’t complain one bit that she can’t walk or that we should pick her up.
Jahnavi takes time to open up. I think most of the kids do, its a basic part of child psychology. But in her new school, she is the only one who can’t speak English. And I have noticed that other children don’t play with her. I so want to talk to her teacher to be with her for a few days. Everyday I decided to talk to the teacher and every day I am returning home with just pecking on Jahnav’s cheek.
My daughter doesn’t like to mix up with other kids. In fact she is afraid of even younger kids. She has been a lonely child. No body to play with her except me or my mother, and no other children of her own age. There was a time when she would start wailing at the sight of any stranger. It was very embarrassing when people wanted to cuddle and she would scream and yell, tears trickling down her eyes.
My sister has two sons. She and her husband decided to have another child as they thought that only child in a family often turns into a little despot.They become selfish as all their wishes and wants are fulfilled by doting parents.
I am sure that I won’t let my daughter turn in to a tyrant, but I am not sure how can I help her out of her shyness.
I am a 32 year old Indian woman who spends most of the time in Europe. I thought that I liked to travel, but now I am not so sure. I have been to Switzerland, France, England, Scotland and Spain. I have a little daughter whom I dot on (all mothers do, nothing new). I fear that my overbearing attitude is turning her into a timid and fearful person. I am a recluse and don’t like to interact with people. Internet is my hiding place. I am most comfortable and at ease when I am writing in my blogs. One day I want to quit my job and turn to full time blogging (oh! The ultimate dream of all introverts).
